This also relates to my spouse who is an immigrant, but a 'good' one (being English) as oppossed to my friend's spouse who is Mexican 'bad' you have completely different reactions, and my friends who are Arab and Muslim.

You can also relate it to my friends and my child who are disabled, and how people react to them, the comment 'your child doesn't look disabled' or my friend who is in a wheelchair being pushed aside by someone like a shopping trolly.