I feel myself and a few others can relate to this

[karadinart]

Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: “I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Please. Perform. Perfect.” Healthy striving is self- focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will they think? Perfectionism is a hustle. Perfectionism
—
Brené Brown

Comments

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Yeah. *wry smile*

[bulleteyes.livejournal.com]

Perfectionism can also stem from an arbitrary line being drawn in the sand with the understanding once it has been crossed then acceptance and love will be given. Since the line is both arbitrary and in sand it is always moved once a person gets close to it.

I agree that it is about trying to earn approval. Maybe then approval was meant to be given before any striving began at all.