I didn't have kids to be extensions of myself

I get really pissed off when I hear people get upset because their kid might not believe the religion they want them to, or they are homosexual, or marry a person of another race, what have you. I get pissed off as the parent of a child with a disability and hear other parents (who have children with disabilities) whine ‘I didn’t get the kid I wanted.’

You shouldn’t have a child so they can live out your dreams, they are not an extension of yourself, they are their own people. Myself and my spouse wanted to have kids because we were so happy together and we wanted to share this amazing world with other people.

I think my kids are the coolest people on the planet, I look on them every day as the best decision I ever made (and I grew up never ever planning to have kids) my biggest fear is not what they will do or become that will reflect on me, it’s please god don’t let me screw them up.

You are not in competition

I was just reading a friends blog, and they mentioned going to a reunion and trying not to jump to immediately thinking about how other people are thinner, have more money, are married or single, etc.

And I thought, THANK GOD I no longer give a crap about what other people do. Looking at someone who is outwardly successful and comparing them to your own personal situation is absurd, you can't see their anxieties, there isn't a position of a start point, where you and this other person came from the same background or opportunity. Where does looking at everything as a competition get you but depression and anxiety?

You can compete with yourself, you can tell yourself to be 'better, stronger, faster' but you aren't going to get there looking at what other people apparently 'have' that you do not.

Happy Geek Pride Day!

May 25 is Towel Day for you Hitchiker's Guide fans.

The day Star Wars was released in 1977.

And also a significant day to Terry Pratchett fans, I hear.

So I'm gonna watch some SUPERNATURAL.

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